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Double Viking has a great article entitled Questions from your girlfriend that aren’t really questions. It’s an expanded version of what you’ve read on the net for years, if you read at all. I wrote on the same subject not too long ago myself, although it looks like I got caught in the act. I admitted to asking the question, “Where do you want to eat tonight?” not realizing that men might consider that a loaded question. As many times as I’ve been married, I never saw a man fret over the answer to that one. It’s not quite the same as DV’s question “What do you want to do tonight?” Hell, I know the answer to that... you want to watch TV, and you want me to sit with you while you do, so you’ll have someone to talk to.

By age 30 or so, most women have encountered enough honest men to give up such questions. If a man has any desire to make a woman feel good about him, herself, or the relationship, he’ll do it on his own. Or not. That’s why older men are better, too. After a certain point, it boils down to:

This relationship has lasted this long because we both know that you can’t do any better.

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